Why Is This So Hard?
We are created for community, not isolation. As we continued in our “Belong” series, Jamey explored how true belonging requires vulnerability, honesty, and a willingness to invite others into our lives—even into our mess. From the very beginning, God declared it is not good for us to be alone, and this truth echoes through every generation, including our own. Yet, community is hard. It’s easier to keep people at arm’s length, to hide behind busyness, technology, or even our own wounds. We often settle for superficial connections—small talk, digital interactions, or simply showing up without truly being known. But God’s design is deeper: a place where we are truly seen, known, and loved, and where we do the same for others.
Key Takeaways
– True community requires vulnerability, not just proximity
It’s possible to be surrounded by people and still be alone if we never let anyone see beneath the surface. Real belonging happens when we allow ourselves to be known—our struggles, dreams, and doubts—and when we know others in the same way. This depth of relationship is God’s design for us.
– Jesus’ way of community begins with invitation
He didn’t keep people at a distance, even when it was inconvenient or risky. He invited others into His life and entered into theirs, modeling a posture of openness that breaks down walls and creates space for genuine connection. Our own fears and past hurts may tempt us to bolt the doors, but following Jesus means choosing to invite others in, even when it feels vulnerable.
– Authentic community acknowledges the mess
Jesus Himself, in His darkest hour, asked His friends to be with Him—not to fix the situation, but simply to be present in the pain. We often hide our struggles, believing we must appear strong or put-together, but it’s in admitting our need and allowing others into our mess that true community is formed. Vulnerability not only draws support but gives others permission to be real as well.
– Love in community means staying at the table, even when it’s hard
Jesus’ disciples were flawed, and they failed Him, yet He never abandoned them. In a culture quick to cancel or withdraw at the first sign of conflict, we are called to fight for reconciliation and extend grace. Biblical community is imperfect, but its beauty and power are found in our commitment to love one another through the mess.
– The “Age of Me” undermines true community by making everything about personal convenience and preference
Our digital lives give the illusion of closeness but often leave us isolated and emotionally depleted. Christ calls us to a different standard: to honor others above ourselves, to sacrifice for one another, and to build relationships that are life-giving rather than transactional. This requires intentionality, sacrifice, and a willingness to remove the barriers—both digital and emotional—that keep us apart.
Reflection Questions
- Jesus modeled inviting others into His life, even when it was inconvenient or risky. Is there someone you sense God is prompting you to invite into your life or your home? What’s holding you back, and what’s one step you could take this week?
- Jamey talked about “acknowledging the mess” and being honest about our struggles. When was the last time you let someone into your mess? How did it go, and what did you learn from that experience?
- In a culture quick to “cancel” or withdraw at the first sign of conflict, Jesus stayed at the table with His flawed friends. Is there a relationship in your life where you’ve been tempted to withdraw? What would it look like to “stay at the table” and pursue reconciliation or extend grace?
- The “Age of Me” encourages us to ask, “What’s in it for me?” when it comes to community. How can you shift your mindset this week to ask, “How can I serve or honor others?” instead?
- Jamey challenged us to remove both digital and emotional barriers that keep us apart. What is one practical way you can limit digital distractions or be more present with people this week?
Watch the Message
Worship Songs from Sept 14
- “Waymaker”
- “Holy Forever”
- “Back To Life”
- “Living Hope”
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